
The call comes from the funeral home, "
Mr./Mrs. ___________ has passed away, and the family has asked if you can conduct the service." "
Of course," I say immediately, and without hesitation, "
anything for the family."
I don't know this person from Adam. I may have met them in passing, or seen them at a restaurant, or knew they were kin to someone at church. Maybe this person never graced the doors of any church house, never sat down in a Bible class (except when they were little). Maybe they never confessed Christ, never obeyed His gospel message, or never lived a life that bore any fruits of repentance...and now I have this monumental task of trying to sum up their life and comfort their family.
I sit with the family during the visitation the night before, trying and trying to find some memory to share with them, some story, some quirk, some mannerism, some colloquialism that the departed said all the time. Something...ANYTHING that will help to soothe their aching heart and console their loathsome spirit. All the while, my heart is aching because I have now found out (from the evidence that family has given me) that this person I'm about to preach a funeral for...didn't have Christ when they left this life. Now, I realize that all the laughing that will come from remembering some funny story, or the smile that will come from remembering some crazy phrase their deceased loved one said...won't bring any lasting consolation.
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Brethren, we do not want you to be ignorant about those who fall asleep [those who have died],
or to grieve like the rest of men, who have no hope." (I Thessalonians 4:13) To be totally honest, there are way too many preachers who overlook the need for grief. Without pain, there is no growth...there is no change without pain and struggle! And there is no greater grief than to know that someone has died without the blood of Christ washing them into eternal life.
To step down from that podium in the funeral chapel, after preaching the memorial service of someone who never once showed an ounce of Christ in their life, is one of the emptiest feelings I have ever known! There is nothing I can do or say to change the decision they made to live their life as if there was no God...there is only the lesson that comes from the greatest of all preachers (Death), as another soul departs from this life having never confessed a need for the Savior, Jesus Christ. This is one of the hardest things about ministry, and it will always be.