The last 24 hours have been pretty frustrating, but they have also contained some of the greatest growth in my relationship with my wife, to date. We enrolled in an eight week marriage class based on the book "His Needs Her Needs", and man has it been an eye opener. Coming to the chapters on honesty and openness...I thought that our discussion was gonna be pretty cut and dry. Wrong!
Without going into detail, there are two lessons I learned (the hard way): 1). Anything, ANYTHING that you keep from your spouse is bad. I'm not talking about trying to hide a mistress or something huge like that...I'm talking about trying to conceal the slightest, smallest, most minuscule thing. It could be something that you know your spouse doesn't like, but as long as they don't find out...it's OK, right? Wrong! Whatever it is, don't try to hide things from your spouse. It always ends badly.
2). I have to be willing to sacrifice anything (besides my faith) in order to show a genuine love. Anything that she doesn't approve of (even though it may not be wrong) I should be willing to sacrifice for her love. This one hurts...a lot. Sacrifice doesn't feel good. It's downright painful. However, I can't be true to my love for her unless I am willing to sacrifice for her.
I prayed for the Lord to send me a woman to make me a better Christian man...and He sent me one. Thank you, Lord, for my wife.
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